Forgive your parents is the best thing you can do to improve your self-esteem and the quality of your life.
Limiting emotions like resentment, guilt, anger, negatively affect your relationships, your physical and mental wellbeing. They limit your life and take away energy. These emotions do not allow you free to live peacefully. They create a cycle of pain and emotional suffering, which is often difficult to get out of. When you are unable to forgive someone who made you suffer, especially your parents, you waste precious energy. You could otherwise use this energy to be happy. Waste of energy, like the time, are non-refundable.
Sometimes parents are not able to give the children the love they need.
This lack of respect has many reasons. They may have had parents who were incapable of giving love too. They may have had severe problems to solve, or have lived in a difficult historical period or extreme poverty. Therefore, in those situations, the priority was to survive, and the affection of the children was not fundamental. I do not want to justify the lack of love from parents. I think that being a parent is one of the most challenging tasks in the world. Unfortunately, some people do not realize how important it is to give love to their children.
Lack of love inevitably arouses limiting emotions like resentment, guilt, anger. These emotions negatively affect your relationships, your physical and mental wellbeing.
When a child does not receive the attention and love he needs, these deficiencies weigh inevitably on his life. As an adult, he could be insecure, with low self-esteem, and fears of being abandoned. For example, if your mother never gave you the attention and love you need, every time someone does not treat you the way you think you deserve, you may suffer more than necessary. Or when someone forgets to call you or give you the attention you expect, you suffer once again. Most of the time this suffering is rooted in your subconscious mind. And it is caused by your inability to overcome your pain, especially the fear of being abandoned.
Your old wounds didn’t heal, and you keep on being tuned on the frequency of negative emotions. One of the most effective actions to do when you realize that you did not overcome some issues of your past is forgiving. Especially forgiving your parents for freeing yourself from your heavy emotional burden. Forgive your parents is the best thing you can do to improve your self-esteem and the quality of your life.
Attention: forgiving does not mean that you have to meet and embrace the person who made you suffer. Forgiving means accepting what happened and be aware that the past can’t be changed.
Forgiving means to free yourself from your emotional traps, that created especially during your childhood.
Childhood wounds are the most difficult to treat. These wounds are the ones that trigger in you a mix of hostility, anger, resentment, and guilt, which have their origin in a distant time. And they have become part of your way of behaving. The inability to forgive and let go of the past can have different consequences. The most common are intense grief, sense of loneliness, explosions of anger, and fear of being abandoned.
To understand these unconscious mechanisms, I’ll give you an example that is sure to make the idea. Assume that during your childhood, your parents neglected you. Or, they repeated you all the time that you didn’t worth a dime. Surely, these experiences did not encourage your self-esteem and even confidence in yourself. And they played a significant role in settling limiting beliefs in you, especially at an unconscious level. Today you may believe to be inferior to others. Or, that you do not worth to be loved. So, if you are convinced not to deserve love, you will attract people who will only give you a little love.
As explained in detail in my book “Be the Hero of Your Life – An Instruction Manual for Self-esteem” forgiveness is fundamental to start a new journey to self-esteem and a happy life with a blank slate. Forgiveness helps you to be more conscious of your emotions and avoid the unconscious mind tricks. The unconscious mind is powerful more than we think.
Furthermore, unconscious beliefs are the basis of the Law of Attraction. If you are a sad person who has little self-esteem, you will hardly attract into your life people who can love you. Your emotional wounds have not yet been resolved. They continue to spread a specific vibration or energy. This energy resonates with people similar to you.
If you keep on fearing of being abandoned, you will attract people who have difficulty establishing permanent relationships.
When you are aware that your relationship with your parents has influenced your life in a certain way, here is that forgive your parents is the best thing you can do for yourself, to improve the quality of life and achieve good self-esteem and get rid of emotional burdens.
Some people blame their unhappiness on bad luck, other people, fate, or karma. In my experience, you are the only one responsible for your destiny. Therefore I want to ask you: how much are you willing to forgive people who have hurt you, especially your parents? How much are you ready to let go of the past and the suffering to start a new peaceful life?
The first step towards your well-being is to become aware of what happened to you. Understand the events that make you change and assess if it’s worth continuing to suffer because of the past, given that it is not possible to change it. Unhealed emotional wounds can stop you from achieving your goals, meet your soul mate, and fulfill your professional goals. Even if you meet your ideal partner, the nature of your inner wound could always create problems in your relationship.
Forgiveness is one of the most potent forms of love and serenity. It is one of the best ways to clear your mind and feel free to continue your journey to self-esteem and make your dreams come true.
As I wrote in my self-esteem book: be happy, be strong and be the hero of your life.